Teenagers, mood swings, identity, PARENTS.

Teenage years has probably got to be one of the most sensitive times of communication between the teen and his/her parents. Especially for the second generation whose parents are immigrants. So listen... 

You will never be able to win your parents over to allow you to do that new thing (that you so desperately want to pursue) by talking to them with a tone in your voice. You perceive that tone as passion, but your parents will perceive it as a lack of maturity & incompetence. If you want your parents to love and support you in your new path, talk to them with humility, and be patient for whatever answer you will get after. It takes time for parents to loosen up and relax whatever constraints they have on you, but eventually it will happen. For most of our parents, if we talk to them with an attitude, they completely shut off from us because they dislike the way we talked to them, even if you are right and they are wrong. This is just how many parents are. 

And don't bring up that ''I'm not a child anymore, I'm an adult!" because they haaate that. Whether you are 17 or 70 you will always remain a child in their eyes. So don't exclaim that you are an adult, SHOW them that you're an adult, show them that you're competent, mature, capable and intelligent. And in response hopefully they will reach that realization that they should start treating you like an adult. So yeah, hold your tongue, be patient, it will do you amazing favors in the long term. Trust me.

Negotiate, discuss, and reason with them; the important thing is that you do it in a good manner.

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Don't you hate it when you see your friends emotionally trapped in a relationship that's going nowhere or even unhealthy for them. You can say all the words and advice that you can offer, but so long as they have an attachment to their partner, your endeavor only has a very limited impact. Love & attachment can creep up on a person without them realizing. And when they do realize it, they're already attached. It's like the only time they realize they got too close to the fire is when they get burnt. This is why I take male-female interaction seriously. May Allah give us Halal life partners who will be there to catch us when we fall for them.